Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman

This book contains empirical research on what works and doesn't work in relationship, and includes relationship strengthening exercises. Up until this research was done understanding relationships was mostly trial and error, or guesswork. This book should be distributed with marriage licenses.

$14.95 at boulderbookstore.com

Boundaries, Dr. Henry Cloud,
by Dr. John Townsend

When my yard and your yard are clearly defined I don't have to fear you or control you. I am free to love you. This concept can take a lifetime of refinement, but it is worth every effort. Everyone should have boundary setting capabilities in their toolbox to have the best of a designed life.

$17.95 at boulderbookstore.com

He's Just Not that Into You,
by Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo

I read this because it humors me. But when I read it I am reminded of how easily I can denigrate myself for the sake of a relationship with a man--despite my best intentions. When I remember that I am great, as the book suggests, I demand higher standards of those with whom I share my time. This book puts the spotlight on bad male behavior and has us all take a look at the way they view women.

$10.00 at boulderbookstore.com